Someone is awfully cuddly these days!
When I considered the idea of a second dog my biggest concern was that Daisy would be upset with a new dog honing in on her Momma. The idea that her feelings would be hurt with another dog wanting to cuddle all the time, I didn’t want her feeling tossed aside for a new puppy! “New Baby” syndrome where the first born feels neglected and ignored because the new baby is taking the spotlight.
Then Wheaton found us…..and there was no way that he was gonna infringe on her cuddling time….he was so scared and shy and anxious. He wasn’t a cuddler. He of course warmed up and had moments but I had to leave that up to him.
We had achieved the perfect balance. Daisy would cuddle 24/7 if she could…not even exaggerating. If you ask Daisy if she would like to go for a walk, she will just flip over and show her belly for some tummy tickles!
So I had Miss Cuddles and Mr. Aloof…..
And then after a couple years Wheaton started asking for cuddles. And it would just be for a brief period, then he’d go back to the other end of the couch. He’d give hugs when I picked him up, he’d sleep right up tight against my back every night, he showed his affection in his own way. After my mum died and I was fresh into the grieving process Wheaton would push up against my back at night (making sure I could feel him against me, one of my previous blog entries tells about that) and he would sometimes crawl over and lay across my chest (heart to heart) like he was trying to heal my broken heart. He’s a magical little dude.
Well, to my absolute delight, in the last few months he’s even more cuddly in the evenings now. When we sit on the couch I ask him if he wants a cuddle and he comes over and climbs up in my arms for a good 10 minutes of one-on-one cuddling. Then he moves down a bit and he & Daisy both curl up on my legs and they stay there until I have to move for something. Him staying close & curled up with us is a new feature!
Something else he’s doing that wouldn’t seem like a big deal to most because it’s something we all take for granted with our dogs…..when I reach out to pet him he doesn’t back away. I noticed this a couple weeks ago when I came home after being out one evening…both Daisy & Wheatie were so excited….the “Momma’s home Momma’s home” frenzy….and I reached out to rub Daisy’s head as I always do, then I reached out to rub Wheaton’s head (this is where he usually would back away and go run around) and he let me! How cool is that!!!!
The possibilities are never-ending when you apply patience. And love.
With love & kindness….
Jenniffer, Daisy & Wheaton (aka Mr. Cuddles)
Ps…That’s my boy….with his paw holding my leg.